No nurture

No Nurture  

We are conditioned to accept "No" and say No. This is imposed on us on our each and every  activity in our  every essays since our childhood.Hence a small achievement is big for us.we restrict our child to excel while constrained from all sides called comfort zone.we even break the barriers of law to help, guide knowing fully well it is unlawful and unwise.we try to help like butterfly parable in which child wanted to help the young one to come out of its cocoon.as it struggled to squeeze its body through a tiny hole.it struggled for some time when exhausted it stopped.we in our kindness to help did not understand was that the restricting cocoon and the struggle required to get through the opening was nature's way of training. for strengthening its wings for a lifetime of flight.are we not robbing them of many lessons of  life teaches through adversity.?

If one want to be a swimmer he has to dive in be it well, pond, lake or a swimming pool. Do we have that temerity to free him or her even in front of us.? Most of us don't have including me. I use to drive some 18 kms. to reach my work place.On my way there was big pond now called Futala lake.Daily i was tempted to learn swimming seeing most of the children living near by learned and enjoyed there.my friend my travel partner C.K.Jain also thought we will take a dip.one day we started early and reached the spot.just when we were about to take plunge into, my friend noticed water was full of mud.no this side is not good next day we will try from other side. and we dropped the idea for next day.next day we went to the other side. but to unnerve our inflated enthusiasm we found the side was surrounded by water snakes.our dream shattered and gave up the idea of swimming.it took nearly 3 years to conceive that idea of learning. Daily we witnessed people taking bath some boys swimming.but we failed to ignore the impediments which were not hurdles at all.one of the former minister also shri Anees Ahmad   was daily swimmer their and he was a swimming champion too. That we knew very well.we have seen his dedication and passion for that. But we have only found some or other elibies.          

‘No! You can’t do that.’

‘No! You are wrong.’

‘No! You are too old.’

‘No! You are too young.’

‘No! You are too weak.’

No! You will get hurt. '

‘No! It will never work.’

‘No! You don’t have the education.’

‘No! You are not suppose to do.’

‘No! You don’t have the money.’

‘No! It can’t be done.
 No!’in my case same happened this water is filthy and unhygenic.for swimming

And each ‘No!’ you hear has the potential to erode your confidence bit by bit until you quit all together.

Though the world says, ‘No!’ to you today, you should be determined to say, ‘Yes!’ and prove it! ”says most of motivational speaker for confidence boost.